I spent the first three years of my marriage in a strange limbo place. On the one hand, I was married to my soul mate and life was beautiful. On the other hand, every single day we spent together was a day closer to the dreaded Seven Year Itch, to the inevitable day we stopped loving each other and started being married to each other out of habit and logistics.
I eventually came to realize that it doesn’t have to be that way. Between a nice chat with my grandmother, the book Happy Wives Club (so highly recommend!), and a few inspirational church sermons, I finally came to realize that you can work on your marriage now so that it doesn’t get to that point later.
I’ve also learned one lesson over and over and over again throughout the years: Life is what you make it. I have emotional baggage and heartache just like everybody else. I can sit around wallowing in it or I can see the positive and beautiful pieces of life around it. Ryan and I frequently comment that some of the happiest people we know have been through or are going through quite a lot and that some of the most bitter people we know actually have a pretty great life and just refuse to acknowledge it.
I feel like I have trained myself pretty well to automatically be positive when it comes to marriage and parenting. I love these two fellas, even when they make me crazy, and continuing to love them even through their flaws is flat out EASY when I remember that they’re loving me through my many flaws too. Even still, it doesn’t hurt to be inspired every now and then!
I thought it would be neat to start a little collection of love stories here on this blog. Proposal stories, poems, sweet stories about an anniversary surprise, inspiring stories about overcoming difficult obstacles together... I want to see stories from newlyweds, from couples who have been married for more than half of their lives, and from those who aren’t married yet but have seen some beautiful marriage stories through their friends or family. I’d love for this blog to be a place you can come to when your darling husband frustrates you or stresses you out. I’d love this to be a place you can come to remember what it’s all about and to remember how great life really is as long as that guy is the one holding your hand.
I am really excited for this project and can’t wait to see how it grows and evolves. I think it’ll be so wonderful to get a glimpse at marriage through the eyes of women from all walks of life, all ages, all socioeconomic backgrounds.
Please consider sending a poem or story of your own (along with up to three optional photos) to SKBell36 (at) gmail (dot) com.
If you’re as excited about this as I am and you want to read some good love stories RIGHT NOW, I recommend a few Chicken Soup for the Soul books: Chicken Soup for the Romantic Soul, Chicken Soup for the Couple’s Soul, and Chicken Soup for the Soul: True Love. They do have a few others, but these are the ones I’ve already read and enjoyed.
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